Article about raising children

I just read an article in yellow press (iltalehti) that says that children will mimic the behaviour of their parents. So if you have ill behaving parents, the children will behave badly. This was all based on the persons who wrote the original article (have not read it because there was no direct link to it, but it was on Huffington post) experience. Well I would go as far as to say that I agree to a certain point. But having followed people myself, I can tell that this is not the full truth. I am nothing like my mother, and I was nothing like my mother growing up. Quite many of my friends behave differently compared to their parents. 

What I have gathered is that the lack of responsibility by the parent usually causes the behavior that the article was talking about. When the child's behavior is not corrected by the parent, then the child will continue behaving the way they think is normal. Simple. So while mimicking does contribute to a certain extent the other part is what the parent does and teaches. Really I am surprised that they made such an article with so little reference and study. It was more of an blog post where someone told what they thought. 

Other thing that people are saying, that is the new thing in raising children is routines. Really?? How were these parents raised? Just asking, because my sister and sister in law have known this from the start. No-one told them that they need to establish routines for the children. My sister actually is complaining because some do not follow the routines that she has established for the children. To me too this kind of an obvious one. I think one reason why this comes as surprise to so many, is because the childbearing age has gone up. Nowadays people have children when they are older and have forgotten what it was like to be a child. Also their own parents are older and live further away. 

There is no longer one village raising the child like what it was in the old days. Partly the problems that the current teenagers have is caused because they are raised without the support of the whole village. So when they are finding out the realities of life, the pressure gets to them. Before there was the idea that if something happens, there is the village that you can turn into for help. Now it is only the parents whom against the teenager is trying to fight against, meaning that the teenager is all alone. Now all this is my opinion, and I do not expect this to be found in any newspaper, hence to references but just my thoughts.