How often do you speak with your mother, part II

It was my name day Yesterday. And my mother called me! I ask her if something was wrong, but she said she was just calling because of my name day. I wanted to ask her if she has talked to her other children, but because I already know the answer I didn't. I might do that when it is my birthday. Kind of ask her if she called to my sister and brother as they have their birthdays just before mine. I do think she will call them, but since she has not talked to either one of them in months, I think it is really unfair for her to call me all the time.

I wish she would leave me be for now. It is so annoying that she is calling me now that I am abroad. Show interest while I am in the same country, but not while I am abroad so you can use me as a talking point. Also show similar interest on all your kids... 

I am not angry person by nature nor can I hold grudge for very long. Basically if you are nice and friendly to me, I will forgive what ever was in the past. If you treat me wrong, I will be angry for a while. I just can't be bothered to be angry for a long period of time as it takes up so much energy. I rather use my energy on something else. Also as we all are human beings, which means that all the ups and downs that I have in my life, someone else have had or is going to have. That someone will definitely be a relative or someone I know. So I decided to reflect that on the actions that people have. I know that my mother would benefit greatly on going to therapy, but I know that she sees it as weakness.

I think she is part of generation that when they were growing up, going to therapy was rare and people who really were beyond the braking point only went to. Nowadays it is no longer a post solution but a pre solution. It is used to help people not to break. Also because the current society is more about individuals, the mental problems have increased. Basically before a lot of problems were discussed at home and in the society clusters, which is not happening nowadays. People move out sooner and more, it is rare that someone lives in the same place where they were born. So what I am saying, is that people nowadays do not have similar support system as people few decades ago used to have. 

The current society does not see therapy as a bad thing, but more as a helping step. I would see that in few years, in next decade, more and more people will start to go to therapy the same way they go to the dentist. Having yearly checkups, just to have someone who to talk to about issues that can't be shared with anyone else. 

Anyway, I wish she would go to therapy, but since she does not see the need I think I will have to wait for a long time for that to happen.